Author, Self Esteem Coach & Advice Columnist
Abiola Abrams is the author of The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love, winner of Best Self-Help Book at the African American Literary Awards, where she reclaims the word "bombshell" to mean a woman who owns herself mind, body and spirit. An empowerment coach, advice columnist, award-winning media personality and lifestyle journalist, she gives heartfelt, no-nonsense, stigma-free advice on self esteem and self worth, body image issues, healthy relationships, mental health and how to live with passion. In addition to coaching successful women one-on-one, Abrams has been active in media as an Essence columnist, MTV Dating Coach, daytime talk show advice maven and founder of an award-winning blog and web TV series. Read More >
Women's Empowerment - Love, Sex & Dating
Black History Month at NYU
Abiola's Empowered Dating and Flirting Workshop for Women
Emotional Eating and Learning to Love Your Body
How to Rise and Shine! Having the Confidence to Step Up
Every woman - and man - has a body image story. Abiola Abrams realized this when she complimented a friend on her "skinny legs" and the friend burst into tears. Abrams, who had always lusted after thin limbs, had not known that in her friend's Southern upbringing, being too thin was seen as shameful. Read More >
This talk is about how to find your secret beauty and take a journey to the center of yourself. The pathway is beyond (but often through) anorexia, bulimia, food obsession, compulsive overeating, body dysmorphia, dieting, poor nutrition, self harm, sedentary lifestyles, self isolation, agoraphobia, and addictions. Your best thinking got you to your current state, so let's learn how to think differently. Read Less ^
Stigmas around mental health issues loom large, particularly among women and communities of color. The myth of the superwoman is detrimental as it blocks people from seeking help when they need it. Read More >
In this era of social media and nonstop updates, people remain more isolated than ever. Facebook photo albums document life at its best and can lead you to believe, "Wow, everyone is having the best life ever. What about me?" Well, what about you? In this talk, Abiola Abrams tackles depression, anxiety, sadness, grief, disordered eating, addiction, stress, suicide, self esteem, and healing. She gives a voice to the voiceless. Read Less ^
You deserve to be fully loved just as you are. Abiola Abrams became interested in healthy relationships when her first marriage crumbled. After ten years with her partner, she started over as a single woman in her thirties. It was her first time being single as an adult because like many women, she had been a serial monogamist from the age of fifteen. Read More >
A bad relationship with someone else reflects a bad relationship with yourself. In addition to getting her life coaching certification, Abrams embarked on a series of "love studies" to really learn about interpersonal relationships. She shares her insights in this provocative talk and discusses healthy communication skills, expectations, intimacy, forgiveness, boundaries, true vulnerability, feminine vs. masculine, wants vs. needs, love languages, the honeymoon effect, and fighting fair. Read Less ^
Are you living the life you were meant to live? Abiola Abrams' mantra is that “life is a passionate experience, not a passive one.” Read More >
Abrams has personally overcome challenges such as toxic relationships, people-pleasing, body image issues, lying about her age for her career, and anxiety to find the power in living authentically. She now considers herself to be a pleasure educator, teaching joy, juicy living, and the sacred practice of extreme self care. If your plan is to live your best life "one day," then this talk is for you.
Abiola Abrams' Self-Love Toolbox includes healing modalities from affirmations and guided meditation to gratitude and the emotional freedom technique. Abrams will also offer laser coaching to your audience with the secrets to living your best life. Read Less ^
We all deal with loss. Yes, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Whether it's the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or the death of a loved one, loss is always at the crossroads. Read More >
Daunted by grief, we often move forward without healing. As a result, we can become the walking wounded. Abiola Abrams has named this condition "Post Traumatic Love Disorder." After a series of close family deaths, a big break up, job loss, and personal transition, she created the tools to heal PTLD and shares them with audiences today. Read Less ^
We get trapped by our stories, dependent on the safety of victimhood. We secretly feel that we are our gender, our race, our social status, or our educational level when we are so much more. Our stories are noble and worthy, but we are not just victims and survivors. If another person or external situation is responsible for your misery, then you are dependent upon something outside of yourself to save you. Fearless living is different than never being afraid. Read More >
The daughter of Guyanese immigrants, Abiola Abrams presents a fun, motivational talk filled with concrete advice on breaking barriers. Discussion topics include how to stop comparing yourself, harmful language patterns, people-pleasing, releasing baggage, and the fear of betraying your group by evolving. That's right, unspoken "tribal" contracts keep us bound to stagnant situations. Here's how to reclaim your power. Read Less ^
"It was such a pleasure hearing you, watching your very enlightening and brilliantly produced film clips. Many of the students commented on how thrilling it was to see you and hope to one day have you back for more."
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"Your film presentation was powerful. A must see. Thank you!"
"Motivational, thought provoking and fun!"