Bullying and Leadership Expert
Rachel Simmons is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. As an educator, Rachel works internationally to empower young women to be more authentic, assertive and self-aware. Read More >
National Conference of College Women Student Leaders
Leadership for Rebels
A Real Girl is in Touch With her Feelings
Fear of Losing Relationships
Burden of Communication
Girls have never been more successful, yet they’ve also never struggled more with anxiety, stress and depression. In this talk, Rachel translates the toxic messages about achievement that girls have internalized, and teaches parents the tools to help girls practice self-compassion, redefine success, pursue purpose, and — most importantly — let them know they are enough as they are.
When you can fail well, the world opens up to you. There’s no challenge you can’t pursue, no risk you can’t take, because you know how to get back up when you’re knocked down. In this workshop, learn tools to take healthy risks, bounce back after a setback, and redefine your beliefs about success and failure.
Do you replay your missteps in your head at night, thinking about what you could have done differently? Research shows overthinking disproportionately affects women and girls, and can lead to anxiety, depression, and loss of motivation. At this workshop, learn why we overthink and how to stop, so you can move on, free your mind and focus on more productive activities.
Grades and hard work will take you far, but your ability to form relationships through small talk and networking can make a critical, immeasurable difference to your career – and is a vital leadership skill to boot. Learn and practice the secrets of effective small talk and networking, and learn how seemingly random conversations can open doors to new connections and opportunities, right now and after you graduate.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?What’s the worst that could happen? In this workshop, learn and practice tools to set realistic goals, take healthy risks and manage setbacks. This is about trying new things, being curious, going where you haven’t gone before, facing down something unpredictable.
Imposter Phenomenon is the belief one is a fraud, even when evidence exists to the contrary. Often occurring among high achievers, or people working in fields where they are breaking barriers, IP can create a glass ceiling in your own head – limiting your risks and voice. In this workshop, learn more about IP and practice hands-on strategies to manage it.
Research shows that self-criticism heightens anxiety and lowers motivation, yet most people believe it’s the key to success. In this workshop, learn a researched, three-step practice to deal with setbacks, manage difficult feelings, and quiet the voice of a destructive inner critic.
"Rachel comes to Flint Hill School regularly to build the students’ self-esteem and prevent bullying behavior. She focuses on empowering strategies and she has been very successful with both genders. Her presentation had a significant impact on our entire population of both male and female students. This was even more evident from the number of male students who stayed after the assembly to talk with her personally."
"Rachel was wonderful! Our audience loved her presentation and style and I personally found her to be delightful."
"RACHEL ROCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my gosh….she was everything I hoped for and MORE. EVERYONE raved and raved about her presentation. She was down to earth, funny, SO knowledgeable, friendly, approachable…I can’t say enough good things. My daughter (who worked at the book table with Rachel) had stars in her eyes for the entire conference. The room was packed…and they STAYED until she finished!!! We drew bigger numbers than ever before (1400+), and I firmly believe it was because of Rachel. This morning, I sent out an email to all of the school counselor state presidents recommending Rachel for their conferences."
"The Rachel Simmons visit was the single most successful school assembly event we have ever hosted. The girls loved her. She was concerned about working with the Lower School girls, but she did great with them! The Middle School and Upper School girls could have spent a week with her. We did follow up activities in all divisions and we are using the language she used in her talks. The parents were equally impressed and moved by her talks. Thank you so much for making the arrangements for us."
"You were a hit with the participants who appreciated your availability and willingness to spend time with them for a few minutes after the session. Engaging with them gives you and your message credibility and actually promotes the belief that opportunity is for the taking."
"Rachel was wonderful. It is not often you find a speaker who can so poignantly reach such a broad age range, ours being from 12 to 60, but Rachel absolutely came through in her truly unique style taking full command of the stage and captivating her audience. The members of my NCL chapter who attended as well as members from several other chapters have been signing her praise all day. I am deeply touched at the way my daughter responded; she enjoyed Rachel tremendously and it was a special day for both of us.
I would like to thank you personally for handling the event so thoroughly and professionally from negotiation through execution. Working with you has been a most pleasant experience. Please extend our sincere thanks to Rachel, she was delightful and an absolute jewel."
"We had a WONDERFUL event with Rachel on Saturday! She was/is delightful, and extremely entertaining and informative. She completely engaged both mothers and daughters in our audience—our entire audience! The time went by way too quickly. We could have listened to her much longer! Thanks for all your help coordinating the event!"
"Rave reviews across campus and from the community. We had a great response; the hall in which she spoke had students sitting on the floor to fit in. We had great student, faculty, and community response, with several parents bringing their daughters, daycare and education professionals, etc. Her appeal was broad based. She was also very accommodating and helpful to our Rhodes candidate; they spent an hour or so together and Rachel was great help."
"We sold over 900 tickets and had to put chairs on the stage to accommodate the overflow of people. She is a delightful, dynamic young woman. We were all so impressed with the ease in which she handled the crowds of anxious parents and the time she invested in hearing their personal experiences. I can't wait to listen to her speak again!
There must have been at least 40 little girls waiting in line to ask Rachel a question and she was gracious and articulate in her responses to each and every one of them. It was particularly an impact that so many children were willing to get up and express their feelings; share their personal experiences. It certainly speaks to the degree that we are all affected by “AG” and how eager the kids were to talk about it.
I want her to know that she reached our community, opening a much needed dialogue to address this issue. And, now she has a cult following of adolescent girls who think she HUNG THE MOON, my daughters included."
"The Head and I attended all four presentations--grades 8-12, grades 4-7, parents and alums, faculty and staff. Rachel varied the content and the delivery model for each of these target groups with some similar messages for each. We had spoken beforehand about possible focus topics for each of the four different groups and this was a great opportunity for us to work with Rachel, her content and her delivery. Our event is complex in that we need a speaker with Rachel's nimbleness and experience to reach varied audiences. Kudos to her, her energy was positive the whole way through. We are really happy to have worked with APB. Logistics from start to finish went well. We would recommend Rachel and APB to other schools."
"We are so pleased, she was absolutely fabulous! Our theater was packed for all of the presentations to our parents, faculty, and students and she engaged them all."
"I can’t tell you how many people stopped by my office to say how valuable your training was to them as parents and even to them as individuals. A young woman from our London office (20 something, no kids) emailed me to say anyone who is human would benefit from some of your tips. I have 10 new book orders from others who wanted a copy. Bottom line: Huge impact.
So thank YOU so much. And thank you for being so easy to work with as well. We look forward to having you back."