Bullying and Leadership Expert
Rachel Simmons is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. As an educator, Rachel works internationally to empower young women to be more authentic, assertive and self-aware. Read More >
National Conference of College Women Student Leaders
Leadership for Rebels
A Real Girl is in Touch With her Feelings
Fear of Losing Relationships
Burden of Communication
The “inner resume” is a set of skills associated with self-awareness, self-advocacy, and the ability to deal with conflict and failure. Read More >
These psychological skills are required for real-world success, yet many young women lack these skills because they have grown up with pressure to be “good girls” and to please other people. Young women have gotten mixed messages about how powerful they are allowed to be. The result is sparkling on-paper resumes with high GPAs and extracurricular activities, but a lacking “inner resume”—being able to ask for what you need, delegate authority, take a risk, and try something you might not be good at. Rachel Simmons helps young women see their true value and build up this “inner resume.” Read Less ^
When a girl’s relationships are in trouble—due to exclusion, abusive friendships, cyber-bullying, etc.—her core sense of self is threatened. Parents feel anguished and helpless. Read More >
As an intimate observer of girls’ social world, speaker Rachel Simmons offers parents a window into the hidden culture of girls’ aggression. Every year, she empowers thousands of parents to help their daughters negotiate some of the most painful moments of their lives.
Simmons’ unparalleled experience with girls, shared in her humorous presentations, makes her a favorite of parent associations around the world. Weaving down-to-earth advice with analysis of girls’ development, Simmons provides parents with concrete strategies and scripts to help kids cope with best friends, worst enemies, and everything in between. Simmons also coaches parents on monitoring their girls’ use of social media. Presentations last one hour and are followed by 30 minutes of Q & A.
In this interactive workshop for girls and parents, speaker Rachel Simmons teaches practical strategies to be confident, courageous, and authentic in relationships. Read More >
With guided questions that open up new conversations between parents and their girls, participants come away with a new language to talk about toxic friends and being true to oneself. Girls will practice communicating assertively and learn problem-solving tools with their parents that they can take with them to school the next day. With her personable, down-to-earth speaking style, Simmons keeps participants laughing, interacting, and learning.
Learn how the pressure girls face to please others at all costs installs a glass ceiling on their social, academic, and extracurricular potential. In this lecture, speaker Rachel Simmons teaches participants strategies to help girls communicate assertively, understand their own feelings, and battle perfectionism.
Why do girls say they don’t exist if they’re not on Facebook, yet at the same time feel they have no choice? In this hour-long talk, speaker Rachel Simmons decodes the ups and downs of girls’ online lives. Read More >
She explores the challenge of setting limits at a time when other parents seem more permissive than ever. Using the latest research on social media and youth, Simmons will share practical strategies to set limits on use, respond to cyber-bullying, and parent with authority and compassion. Read Less ^
In this two-hour workshop, educators, clinicians, and other youth professionals will uncover the unwritten rules that guide girls' day-to-day social struggles and undermine their ability to maintain healthy relationships. Read More >
Speaker Rachel Simmons will teach strategies to address destructive assumption-making among peers, how to respond to the phrases “no offense” and “just kidding,” and dysfunctional responses to confrontation. She will also address conflict coping strategies. Read Less ^
"Rachel comes to Flint Hill School regularly to build the students’ self-esteem and prevent bullying behavior. She focuses on empowering strategies and she has been very successful with both genders. Her presentation had a significant impact on our entire population of both male and female students. This was even more evident from the number of male students who stayed after the assembly to talk with her personally."
"Rachel was wonderful! Our audience loved her presentation and style and I personally found her to be delightful."
"RACHEL ROCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my gosh….she was everything I hoped for and MORE. EVERYONE raved and raved about her presentation. She was down to earth, funny, SO knowledgeable, friendly, approachable…I can’t say enough good things. My daughter (who worked at the book table with Rachel) had stars in her eyes for the entire conference. The room was packed…and they STAYED until she finished!!! We drew bigger numbers than ever before (1400+), and I firmly believe it was because of Rachel. This morning, I sent out an email to all of the school counselor state presidents recommending Rachel for their conferences."
"The Rachel Simmons visit was the single most successful school assembly event we have ever hosted. The girls loved her. She was concerned about working with the Lower School girls, but she did great with them! The Middle School and Upper School girls could have spent a week with her. We did follow up activities in all divisions and we are using the language she used in her talks. The parents were equally impressed and moved by her talks. Thank you so much for making the arrangements for us."
"You were a hit with the participants who appreciated your availability and willingness to spend time with them for a few minutes after the session. Engaging with them gives you and your message credibility and actually promotes the belief that opportunity is for the taking."
"Rachel was wonderful. It is not often you find a speaker who can so poignantly reach such a broad age range, ours being from 12 to 60, but Rachel absolutely came through in her truly unique style taking full command of the stage and captivating her audience. The members of my NCL chapter who attended as well as members from several other chapters have been signing her praise all day. I am deeply touched at the way my daughter responded; she enjoyed Rachel tremendously and it was a special day for both of us.
I would like to thank you personally for handling the event so thoroughly and professionally from negotiation through execution. Working with you has been a most pleasant experience. Please extend our sincere thanks to Rachel, she was delightful and an absolute jewel."
"We had a WONDERFUL event with Rachel on Saturday! She was/is delightful, and extremely entertaining and informative. She completely engaged both mothers and daughters in our audience—our entire audience! The time went by way too quickly. We could have listened to her much longer! Thanks for all your help coordinating the event!"
"Rave reviews across campus and from the community. We had a great response; the hall in which she spoke had students sitting on the floor to fit in. We had great student, faculty, and community response, with several parents bringing their daughters, daycare and education professionals, etc. Her appeal was broad based. She was also very accommodating and helpful to our Rhodes candidate; they spent an hour or so together and Rachel was great help."
"We sold over 900 tickets and had to put chairs on the stage to accommodate the overflow of people. She is a delightful, dynamic young woman. We were all so impressed with the ease in which she handled the crowds of anxious parents and the time she invested in hearing their personal experiences. I can't wait to listen to her speak again!
There must have been at least 40 little girls waiting in line to ask Rachel a question and she was gracious and articulate in her responses to each and every one of them. It was particularly an impact that so many children were willing to get up and express their feelings; share their personal experiences. It certainly speaks to the degree that we are all affected by “AG” and how eager the kids were to talk about it.
I want her to know that she reached our community, opening a much needed dialogue to address this issue. And, now she has a cult following of adolescent girls who think she HUNG THE MOON, my daughters included."
"The Head and I attended all four presentations--grades 8-12, grades 4-7, parents and alums, faculty and staff. Rachel varied the content and the delivery model for each of these target groups with some similar messages for each. We had spoken beforehand about possible focus topics for each of the four different groups and this was a great opportunity for us to work with Rachel, her content and her delivery. Our event is complex in that we need a speaker with Rachel's nimbleness and experience to reach varied audiences. Kudos to her, her energy was positive the whole way through. We are really happy to have worked with APB. Logistics from start to finish went well. We would recommend Rachel and APB to other schools."
"We are so pleased, she was absolutely fabulous! Our theater was packed for all of the presentations to our parents, faculty, and students and she engaged them all."